I'm slowly learning to love myself again, but it's not easy when I've grown up feeling that it's something to be earned...
Possibly one of the most confusing things is that I have absolutely no problem giving unconditional love to others..
This has on many occasions had me running round in circles trying to work out how I am so easily able to give out huge amounts of unconditional love to those who need to feel loved yet however much my inner self needs to feel loved I just can't give it.. and I don't understand why.?
That’s one of the many ways attachment trauma manifests—knowing how to give love but struggling to receive it yourself 💔
As someone who’s been there, I’d say there’s a high chance that, deep down, you might feel like you don’t deserve it, and that’s what’s holding you back. This belief is often unconscious, so it can be tricky to identify, but it's usually the root of our blocks
Mikaiya, I feel this so much - I have spent a lot of time there myself. Scientists say there are actually different emotional pathways in our brains for ourselves than for other people, and the ones for ourselves don't seem to access the same understanding and grace we naturally extend to others. The suggestion to combat this is to try to think of yourself like you would another person - I think that's what Patricia's writing to her 8-year-old self may be accessing. That may not be the exact configuration that works for you, but you get the idea. I'm sure Patricia will have other thoughts as well. Keep working on it - it's a muscle that gets stronger with practice. 💛
Brilliant as always.. I had that unconditional love from my parents, as a child. But sadly, not in personal relationships as an adult. But I have learnt, like you, that people have expectations within a relationship, an image, of a partner, expectations to fill their needs, rather than consider a partner/friend, equally with the same thought, love and respect.
It had been what I could bring to the table, to fit in.
I have since learnt, I no longer need these people in my world either… And releasing what no longer serve you. It's relieving the constant pressure, need to prove your selfworth. To attain the equal consideration and respect.
Its calming, knowing that my selfworth is of value and not allow someone else to disrespect that.
Yeah, all of this... 💓
It's a whole process. But we've got this 💓
I'm slowly learning to love myself again, but it's not easy when I've grown up feeling that it's something to be earned...
Possibly one of the most confusing things is that I have absolutely no problem giving unconditional love to others..
This has on many occasions had me running round in circles trying to work out how I am so easily able to give out huge amounts of unconditional love to those who need to feel loved yet however much my inner self needs to feel loved I just can't give it.. and I don't understand why.?
What is it that holds me back.?
That’s one of the many ways attachment trauma manifests—knowing how to give love but struggling to receive it yourself 💔
As someone who’s been there, I’d say there’s a high chance that, deep down, you might feel like you don’t deserve it, and that’s what’s holding you back. This belief is often unconscious, so it can be tricky to identify, but it's usually the root of our blocks
Mikaiya, I feel this so much - I have spent a lot of time there myself. Scientists say there are actually different emotional pathways in our brains for ourselves than for other people, and the ones for ourselves don't seem to access the same understanding and grace we naturally extend to others. The suggestion to combat this is to try to think of yourself like you would another person - I think that's what Patricia's writing to her 8-year-old self may be accessing. That may not be the exact configuration that works for you, but you get the idea. I'm sure Patricia will have other thoughts as well. Keep working on it - it's a muscle that gets stronger with practice. 💛
Brilliant as always.. I had that unconditional love from my parents, as a child. But sadly, not in personal relationships as an adult. But I have learnt, like you, that people have expectations within a relationship, an image, of a partner, expectations to fill their needs, rather than consider a partner/friend, equally with the same thought, love and respect.
It had been what I could bring to the table, to fit in.
I have since learnt, I no longer need these people in my world either… And releasing what no longer serve you. It's relieving the constant pressure, need to prove your selfworth. To attain the equal consideration and respect.
Its calming, knowing that my selfworth is of value and not allow someone else to disrespect that.
Thank you xx