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Kat's avatar

"If you didn’t spiral as far down as you did last time…" -- this is something I've seen, maybe no one else has, but I have and that matters. Thank you for this insight, Patricia.

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Patricia W.'s avatar

Kat, I’m so glad this resonated with you! It really does matter when we notice those shifts, even if no one else sees them. Thank you for sharing that with me! ❤️

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Susan Shier's avatar

GOSH I NEEDED TO HEAR EVERY WORD OF THIS TODAY! Sorry...I'm not yelling...I'm grateful for your ability to paint the picture of the experience.

And...I brushed my teeth today! So yeah...it's a good day. Thank you, Patricia.

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Patricia W.'s avatar

I’m so glad this hit at the right time!! ❤️

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JEANETTE LOCKHART's avatar

Thank you for this. I resonated with every bit. People notice a difference in me, and that's wonderful, but they have no idea about all the differences in me inside, in the way I think and feel. It's like they see the tip of the iceberg and I see the other two thirds under the water. My setbacks used to unhinge me, now I am more compassionate with myself and can tell myself I have made so much progress and that I am proud of myself. Lots more to work on, but despite how hard and painful it can be, I am never giving up. Knowing we are not alone is so very helpful. ❤️🙏. Sending love and encouragement to you all. You are worthy and deserving, always.

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Patricia W.'s avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel you completely—it’s like people see the surface, but there’s so much more happening underneath, the internal shifts that are harder to explain.

It’s beautiful to hear that you’ve become more compassionate with yourself and can recognize the progress you’ve made. That’s huge! Thank you for being here ❤️

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JEANETTE LOCKHART's avatar

Thank you. 🙏❤️

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Alice Wild's avatar

This is so wonderful. I want to come back and read it again. As someone with an achiever-based personality, healing feels like constantly failing. It feels like there should be a major breakthrough instead of the cyclical tolerance of pain—the nervous system hijacking and regulation roller coaster. Thank you, Patricia. ❤️

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Patricia W.'s avatar

Alice, I’m so glad this resonated with you! I totally hear you—when we’re used to achieving and pushing for big breakthroughs, the cyclical nature of healing can feel frustrating and like a failure. But honestly, that’s part of the process—the ebb and flow, the ups and downs. It’s all progress, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m so glad you’re here ❤️

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Alice Wild's avatar

Thank you, Patricia!! ❤️‍🩹❤️

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Latitude's avatar

Consistency, indeed! And we're not talking about perfection. Rather the getting back up, resetting that boundary, repair after rupture. I'm reminded that success is built on a foundation of many (mini?) failures.

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Hannah Baiardi's avatar

This really resonated, Patricia. I felt truly seen. Thank you for being here, your words are like a mirror or a cup of warm tea. Much love and gratitude! xo

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CJ's avatar

Wow your writing is so great, a true testament to how our experiences run parallel. I found a lot of comfort in thinking “she’s gone through what I’m going through” thank you for sharing and putting this out there 🫶🏽

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