A great deal of what you write about resonates with me--thank you for being vulnerable and sharing these revelations with your readers. I'm in my 70s and still learning why some behaviors persist in me. Some therapists poo-pah the notion that our childhood experiences affect us for life. They're wrong--I grew up under a brilliant but abusive alcoholic father.
I have a regret of having relinquished a dog almost three years ago and to this day, I still grieve over that regret as if it were yesterday. The pandemic destroyed my business and while I was caregiver to my blind mother and a husband in the throes of dementia, I took her to the vet when she fell very ill one morning. Snakebite. When I heard the vet say that, I panicked. Trying to save my mortgage, I didn't see how to handle the huge expense of treatment for my dog, so I signed her over--not realizing what I was doing to be honest because if I've ever experienced a breakdown, it just might have been at that moment. Immediately the next morning, I tried to get her back since friends offered to pay the $2500 bill. The vet to this day has not spoken with me, and I do not know where she is, if she is alive, or how she is doing. I've grieved for her as much as I did my infant son who died at five months of age. The entire situation has been a trauma to add to all past traumas and at times I've wondered if I'd survive. I've had to sell everything, relocate, and adjust to an all-new environment. Your writings have helped me to get back to research and writing and the ability to understand why I don't do things to help myself more. I am trying to forgive myself. Thank you.
It's a reminder that you are worthy of being respected and loved equally. We all need to stop and think, reassure ourselves that we are on the correct path to finding ourselves and self-worth.
We have love for others, but we must have love for ourselves.
This is reassuring to read again, and hopefully something to keep in mind.
I am more assertive now, I have never felt the need for aggression.. Thoughts have always come first, having understanding, for others. People do and have taken it as a weakness, and taken advantage at times. Yet I know they always return, with love, and knowledge I only have a kind heart… so with time, hopefully, comes with a lesson for them to reflect to themselves 🙏❤️
Great tips, truly! Recovering people pleaser here and it's such a good reminder!
Thank you! I'm glad to know it resonated with you!
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Great stuff. I need to read it on a daily basis. Thanks!
A great deal of what you write about resonates with me--thank you for being vulnerable and sharing these revelations with your readers. I'm in my 70s and still learning why some behaviors persist in me. Some therapists poo-pah the notion that our childhood experiences affect us for life. They're wrong--I grew up under a brilliant but abusive alcoholic father.
I have a regret of having relinquished a dog almost three years ago and to this day, I still grieve over that regret as if it were yesterday. The pandemic destroyed my business and while I was caregiver to my blind mother and a husband in the throes of dementia, I took her to the vet when she fell very ill one morning. Snakebite. When I heard the vet say that, I panicked. Trying to save my mortgage, I didn't see how to handle the huge expense of treatment for my dog, so I signed her over--not realizing what I was doing to be honest because if I've ever experienced a breakdown, it just might have been at that moment. Immediately the next morning, I tried to get her back since friends offered to pay the $2500 bill. The vet to this day has not spoken with me, and I do not know where she is, if she is alive, or how she is doing. I've grieved for her as much as I did my infant son who died at five months of age. The entire situation has been a trauma to add to all past traumas and at times I've wondered if I'd survive. I've had to sell everything, relocate, and adjust to an all-new environment. Your writings have helped me to get back to research and writing and the ability to understand why I don't do things to help myself more. I am trying to forgive myself. Thank you.
Your words are reassuring, yes they resonate.
It's a reminder that you are worthy of being respected and loved equally. We all need to stop and think, reassure ourselves that we are on the correct path to finding ourselves and self-worth.
We have love for others, but we must have love for ourselves.
This is reassuring to read again, and hopefully something to keep in mind.
I am more assertive now, I have never felt the need for aggression.. Thoughts have always come first, having understanding, for others. People do and have taken it as a weakness, and taken advantage at times. Yet I know they always return, with love, and knowledge I only have a kind heart… so with time, hopefully, comes with a lesson for them to reflect to themselves 🙏❤️