When You're Addicted To Chaos, Safety Feels Either Scary or Boring (or Both)

But at some point, you have a choice to make

Dear readers,

I want to start by apologizing for my inconsistency in March. Life got in the way, as it tends to do sometimes, and I had to step back and deal with some things. It wasn’t intentional, but I’m doing my best to get back on track and bring you the content that matters. Thanks for sticking with me 🤍

Now, let’s get into this.

You know that feeling when things are just... calm? When everything is in its place, and there's nothing to worry about?

Some people actually thrive in that kind of peace. They don’t just find it soothing—they need it. The quiet is their reset button, their place to recharge and regain balance. It’s the kind of environment where they can think clearly, breathe deeply, and feel truly present.

But for others, it’s like the quiet is screaming, and it feels like something’s missing. You might even catch yourself itching for the next crisis, the next big wave to ride, because without it, life just feels... flat.

I know this feeling all too well because I’ve lived both sides of it. There was a time when I couldn’t stand stillness—when I craved the noise, the intensity, the constant movement. I thought chaos was what made me feel alive, that the highs and lows were just part of who I was. But now? I love being grounded. I love the steadiness, the clarity, the way peace doesn’t drain me the way chaos once did.

And today, I’m here to write everything I wish someone had told my past self.

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