To Begin Creating Inner Safety, All You Need Is To Ask Yourself These 3 Questions
Feeling safe in your own skin shouldn’t be a mystery
Let’s be honest: feeling safe within yourself is not something that comes easily.
For a lot of us, it’s something we’ve had to earn. Or learn. Or slowly piece together after years of shaping ourselves around other people’s needs, expectations, or chaos.
And maybe that’s why, when we finally get a moment alone with our thoughts, it doesn’t feel like a safe place at all. Instead, it can feel sharp, confusing, or even empty —like the ground beneath us isn’t quite solid yet.
From my experience, finding safety inside doesn’t mean having everything figured out or feeling perfect all the time. It means being willing to be with whatever shows up, without judgment or escape. It means having the tools to reconnect with yourself, no matter how scattered, overwhelmed, or shut down you might feel.
And when that kind of safety begins to take root… It feels like being able to exhale for the first time in a long time. Like finally getting to rest inside your own body without needing to fix or prove anything.
Oof, it feels so good.
After years of learning to create that kind of safety within myself, with plenty of trial and error, I’ve come to realize it really comes down to just three simple questions. Three quiet but powerful ways of checking in that have helped me return to myself again and again (and they work, every time).
Today, I want to share them with you.