The Real Reason We Struggle To Let Go of Certain Patterns & Behaviors

If you feel stuck in your healing journey, this one's for you

We’ve all been there—stuck in a pattern or behavior that we know isn’t serving us, yet somehow we can’t seem to let it go.

Maybe it’s a habit we’ve carried for years, a relationship we can’t seem to walk away from, or an environment that no longer aligns with who we are. No matter how much we try to change, we find ourselves returning to it time and time again.

It’s frustrating, isn’t it? You know deep down that letting go would be freeing, that it would bring peace, growth, and change. But despite your best efforts, you can’t seem to make it happen. You try to push through, make a decision to move on, but then... there it is again, right where you left it, waiting for you.

When we’re caught in these cycles, it’s easy to think we’re the problem. We tell ourselves it’s a matter of willpower. We start to believe that we’re not disciplined enough, not strong enough, or simply not good enough to do what’s best for us. Every failed attempt to change feels like confirmation that we’re somehow flawed or broken.

But what if it’s not about willpower at all? What if this struggle isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign that there’s something deeper beneath the surface—something that needs to be seen, understood, and honored before we can truly move forward?

What if the real work isn’t forcing ourselves to let go, but learning to understand why we’re holding on so tightly in the first place?