It's Possible To Feel Safe, Even If You Have No Idea What Safety Feels Like (Yet)
Part 1 of the "Creating Safety Within" series.
Safety. It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot, but how many of us really know what it means?
I’m not talking about the kind of safety that comes from locking your doors at night or avoiding dangerous situations. I’m talking about feeling safe in your own skin, in your own life—feeling a sense of peace in your mind and body that allows you to just breathe. To just be.
For so many of us, that kind of safety feels out of reach. It feels like a luxury meant for other people. We’ve spent our whole lives in survival mode, bracing for impact for as long as we can remember, constantly waiting for the next crisis, the next argument, the next wave of chaos.
We’ve forgotten—or never learned—what it means to feel safe.
If you’ve been surrounded by chaos, you might think that’s just how life is. If you grew up in a home where conflict was the background noise of your childhood, where love felt tangled up in anger or unpredictability, you might believe that’s the only way relationships work. You might even feel like you don’t deserve safety or peace (that was my case, at least).
Because the truth is… When conflict is all you’ve ever known, peace feels suspicious. It feels unfamiliar and unsafe, like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. No matter how long we’ve lived in survival mode, we can choose to unlearn the coping mechanisms we’ve developed, and learn healthier ones instead.
Over the course of this series, we’re going to explore what it means to create safety within yourself. Not the kind of safety that depends on external circumstances, but the kind you carry with you. The kind that makes you feel steady, no matter what’s happening around you.
But before we get into the tools and practices that will help you get there (which we’ll dive into later), we need to start with this foundation: it’s possible. It’s possible for you to feel safe, even if it’s something you’ve never known before.
That’s where we begin.