How To Actually Reparent Yourself: Practical Steps for Healing Your Inner Child (And Your Adult Self)

Part 2 of the "Creating Safety Within" series.

Lately, the conversation around reparenting has become more common, and for good reason. We’re starting to realize just how much our upbringing impacts our emotional health, and how important it is to face and heal those wounds.

But here’s the thing…

Reparenting is usually defined as giving ourselves the nurturing we didn’t receive from our parents. But if we’ve never truly experienced that kind of stable, unconditional love, how do we even begin to know how to give it to ourselves?

It’s a paradox. We need reparenting for a reason—because we never received that kind of support in the first place.

I remember feeling completely lost at the start of my own healing journey, thinking, “Okay, so I need to reparent myself, but how on earth do I do that?”. It was overwhelming. The idea of giving myself what I needed from my parents felt like trying to navigate a maze without a map.

Fast forward to five years later, and reparenting has become a crucial part of my life. It’s no longer something that feels distant or impossible—it’s a practice I’ve cultivated through patience, trial and error, and self-compassion. I’ve learned how to show up for myself in ways I never thought I could, offering the love, care, and validation I once thought was beyond my reach.

I’ve stumbled, I’ve cried, but most importantly, I’ve grown. Now, I want to share everything I’ve discovered with you.

Let’s dive into the practical steps you can take to reparent yourself—because you deserve to give yourself the love you needed all along.